It is now rapidly approaching the time to pack up our home and to start our adventure. I am now in the time I struggle the most with every time I move far away.
The one thing I struggle the most with at this time, the one thing I always struggle with during a move, is how some people act as though I have already gone. They don’t do it on purpose, it is a natural reaction, a natural adaptive response to a new situation which the majority of people are unaware they are doing.
All of a sudden I find myself not asked to join in on certain occasions and not included in certain conversations. Anyone who has moved far away from home will have experienced this to some extent.
People will often say “you are not here anyway” as if I have already gone. To which I always reply “I am still here.”
This is also normal in other situations such as leaving a job, getting married, having a baby. In all these situation others will often do one of two things. 1.They make an assumption about your new situation and automatically decipher what they believe you need, such as quiet time, time to adapt etc. or 2. They protect themselves by pulling away before you leave in order to adapt.
I know this is normal, I know nothing is meant by this but it can be difficult for the person leaving, in this case me.
In my book The Happy Migrant I have talked about this process and how to cope. Communication is always top of the list. So time for me to communicate these feelings to my friends.
I am also blessed with friends who wish to spend as much time as possible with me before I leave so I am not complaining, I am just observing.
Have you had a similar experience? How did you cope?
Recently you may have noticed that I have started a Forum on The Happy Migrant. I started the forum due to the amount of comments I receive on a particular post I wrote almost a year ago. The post is “3 Reasons why moving to a new country or state can be emotionally difficult” Some of the replies to this post are heartfelt, emotional and full of decision making questions.
Because of this amount of response I have decided to include a social network on The Happy Migrant. The social network will be an expansion of the forum but with the possibility for you to interact with others and to discuss on a more personal level.
I will be available on Wednesday’s for discussion as I am on Facebook and Twitter to answer question and help with decision making+ I will be able to add to topics in between.
I will let you know when this new expansion is up and running so you can add your profile and start chatting to each other.
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The Happy Migrant now has a Forum. You can use the forum to discuss, ask questions, answer question or share experiences and tips. The Forum is yours to use, my gift to you. Please feel free to add topics and to share information. You can find the Forum here … http://www.thehappymigrant.com/forum/
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I loved Christmas in Tanzania in the 80′s. We didn’t have much in the way of yummy foods and Christmas presents but we did have each other. We had a lot of fun and we took care of each other!
Are you sure that your Expat friends have family and friends to spend Christmas with?
It is now rapidly approaching the time to pack up our home and to start our adventure. I am now in the time I struggle the most with every time I move far away. 
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